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    I'm sure all involved are exhausted, including you.


    It sounds like everything possible was done to try to secure a good outcome - what is left now is waiting, hoping and trusting. I know it's easy to say and hard to do, but try to get some sleep - it sounds like you will need all your strength for the days to come.

    My thoughts remain with you both. {{{{Amy}}}}

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    Quote Originally Posted by AmyS View Post
    The surgeon Consultant Mr.... just rang - yes 10.30pm - it's hit or miss with recovery, too many complications - poor surgeon it was so good of him to ring me personally rather than a nurse - he's been working on my mother since early morning. 14 hours or so - yikes he's exhausted

    Anyway it was good of him to personally ring me. If she can get through the next 24 hours she may come out of it. They are now taking her to a recovery ward and will wait until morning before putting her on the High Dependency Unit where she will be for 3-5 days (obviously if she makes it through the night).
    It's amazing what surgeons can do and the care your mum will receive will be second to none. Infections in the wound area are a risk as you probably know. Usually after surgery they'll have a better idea what they are dealing with and if they have contained the tumour.

    It's a difficult time for all the family - take care.

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    Thoughts and prayers for you AmyS.

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    Stay positive. Sending you hugs.

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    aww hope your ok AmyS. I nursed my lifelong best friend through liver cancer for a year. Sadly she didnt survive and died in july aged just 45. But i often remember her saying that to be offered NO surgery is to be offered no hope. Her cancer was terminal from diagnosis. We felt even the chemo was offered as a mere morale booster. For my friend the surgery became much more than just an operation. It was hope. It was a surgeons acknowledgment that the possible benefits of surgery validated the risk and expense. I pray your mum will come through and have many happy years pain free. xx

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    Thank you, needed to air my thoughts yesterday.

    Still shocked that the surgeon actually rang me himself last night (he gave me his name etc, so looked his credentials up). The nurses rang me again at midnight to say mum was being taken to the high dependency ward and gave me the direct number.

    Rang this morning. My mum desperately wants me to go in and visit. SHE'S MADE IT through the night. Enquired about the complications of the 5 hour surgery turning into 14 hours. Won't discuss it over the phone. The hospital is an hour away, so will be going to visit in the next hour (thank goodness I have transport).

    @ sandyp196 if the GP had done their job and referred her to an Oncologist 4 years ago, things could have been sorted it was only because she's had two stents put in and Marie Curie intervened as mum was so poorly and they (Marie Curie) not the GP got her an appointment with the Cancer specialist. Four years ago the surgery would have been more simplified, the cancer had grown hence the stents to open up parts to allow her to eat and take pressure off her liver, reducing jaundice etc.. She'd never been given chemo or offered it as it could only be done by referral to an Oncologist.

    Now going forward, need to find out what the complications were, possibly the stents or? Will find out this afternoon.

    @beau @tattymamma @flymo @lighttouch @sandyp196 @spencer @fliss @firebird @reddevine

    Many many thanks.

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    It's good to hear that your mum has made it through the night. I'm sure your visit will be a special time.

    You both remain in my thoughts.

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    thank god your mum has made it through. i only came on here this evening to check if she had. so pleased and sorry she has had such a hard time. yeah cancer treatments and care are a minefield of confusing info and treatments. i still feel traumatised having witnessed first hand what my best friend suffered and how difficult it was to get proper care and money for a terminal diagnosis. It was like she was written off from day one. i spent many a day at the hospital shouting at people to care for her and make her feel worth something as a human being!

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    Sandy, re your friend, that is so wrong but at least she had you to fight her corner for her.
    It is almost as if people that are terminal are written off and don't exist as far as decent, respectful care is concerned.

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    Sandy, re your friend, that is so wrong but at least she had you to fight her corner for her.
    It is almost as if people that are terminal are written off and don't exist as far as decent, respectful care is concerned.

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