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    Being social while disabled in general is just a nightmare. Many of us can't drink due to medication and aren't up for sports or similar activities, so our social lives basically end up dying. I'm sure we've all had friends become flakey when you can't keep up with their standards of socializing any more, which only increases the problem.

    It would be really nice if there was some sort of disabled meet up website, where people with disabilities could meet up and make friends within their own abilities. The only things that I've found like this are all aimed at people with learning disabilities, which while I'm sure they're very nice people, are a different crowd from myself and not something I would enjoy attending and putting myself in more pain doing so.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paper View Post
    Being social while disabled in general is just a nightmare. Many of us can't drink due to medication and aren't up for sports or similar activities, so our social lives basically end up dying. I'm sure we've all had friends become flakey when you can't keep up with their standards of socializing any more, which only increases the problem.

    It would be really nice if there was some sort of disabled meet up website, where people with disabilities could meet up and make friends within their own abilities. The only things that I've found like this are all aimed at people with learning disabilities, which while I'm sure they're very nice people, are a different crowd from myself and not something I would enjoy attending and putting myself in more pain doing so.
    If I go out I tend to drive so don't drink. I do think that disability sports are the way forward. They get you out of the house, get you moving, get fresh air and enables you to mix and socialise.

    What sort of recreational sport do you and other members enjoy.

    I've found inclusive cycling outdoors enables me to meet lots of different people with different life experiences.

    I also get involved with Disabled People's Organisations as a board member.

    It all depends on each disabled person. Some disabled people don't like mixing with other disabled people. If that's the case you can self-inflict isolation which isn't good for a person's well-being.

    Trying to have the balance of non-disabled and disabled friends is key.

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    But disabled sports don't work for everyone. I'm a chronic pain sufferer and the more active I am the more pain I'm in. I can walk the dogs for 15 minutes a day and make dinner but that's about my limit. If I tried to do a sport (which I didn't really enjoy before I was like this) then I would only last about 10 minutes and then end up in agony for a couple of days.

    Having a balance is a good thing, but not all disabled people are that lucky. It's hard to find activities to do and when you start to fall behind the majority of people don't even look back to check on you. It's hard enough for non-disabled people to find good friends, if you ever fall off the horse as a disabled person it becomes an absolute nightmare trying to find a new social group.

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    I actually go to a gym and only do what I can manage, other than the recline bike and abductor it is upper body work. It is always a mega struggle to get on and off equipment even with my husband helping me and I often think about giving it up. I need the cardio exercise and need to keep my thigh muscles strong so keep on going but I do suffer. I just grit my teeth, dope up and get on with it. If I was able to be more mobile I would walk instead as I used to love walking.

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    Do like I do and just never go out in the evenings ! I've probably been out 3 times in the evenings in the past 4+ years. Suits me

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    Encouraged by the hospital physiotherapists who have been treating me for the last 2 years, I'm just about to commence swimming at a local leisure centre once a week. Once a week on a Tuesday, the swimming pool is closed early to normal (physically able) people at 7.30pm. From 8 to 9pm the pool is open only to disabled people, obviously under close supervision. I'm looking forward to it.

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    We have a swimming session for disabled only. They raise the floor too to make it safer.

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    I cope by not going out!

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