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    capita pip face to face appointment tomorrow - feel scared

    I have a home visit with capita tomorrow, im really anxious, havent slept since in a few days, or eaten. I cuurently have DLA Lower care and mob for anxiety , depression. I cant go on public transport and need someone with me in the car to go on familiar journeys ( cant be just anyone but someone i trust) I havent been anywhere 'unfamiliar' for over 10 years with anyone. i manage to work pt doing some admin work i find it difficult because my anxiety makes it hard to concentrate, a member of my family also works in the same place so i feel some comfort.
    I have my mum drive me to and from work or have my sister with me for the journey. I reg have ATOS OHS referals done every 6 months via work. my work are supportive and allow me flexitime and time off for appoinments and reg breaks and a higher concideration point for sick days. I take citalopram and diazepam.

    I dont sleep and take zopiclone too. I see my GP regularly and a mental health specialist. I dont have any friends and no releationship (who'd want a relationship with someone who cant go for a day out or spend the night at their place hey ) i dont go shopping or the cinema either. infact I dont really have life

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    Hi Tom,

    Welcome to the forum It's always good to see new faces and remember this is a safe environment to share your life experiences without people being judgemental. We're all here to help.

    First of all - congratulations on securing a job. Don't beat yourself up about it - that's something to celebrate.

    So an assessor from Capita is visiting you at home. Don't be worried. Just try to be friendly and tell the person about how your impairments impact your daily living.

    I wondered if you might like to get involved with some local disability led organisations in your area. I know it's difficult doing new things but once you try something out - it's no longer new. Doing 'things' is just a way of meeting new people with a similar interest. So if you fancied going swimming - whoever you meet will already have something in common with you.

    Exercise and fresh air is very good for anxiety and other mental health issues. Only you can make things happen for the better.

    Let us know how your Capita experience goes - I'm sure people would be interested in how you thought things went.

    Good luck.

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    Will there be someone with you tomorrow? I hope so, if not try to get your mum or your sister to be with you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lighttouch View Post
    Hi Tom,

    Welcome to the forum It's always good to see new faces and remember this is a safe environment to share your life experiences without people being judgemental. We're all here to help.

    First of all - congratulations on securing a job. Don't beat yourself up about it - that's something to celebrate.

    So an assessor from Capita is visiting you at home. Don't be worried. Just try to be friendly and tell the person about how your impairments impact your daily living.

    I wondered if you might like to get involved with some local disability led organisations in your area. I know it's difficult doing new things but once you try something out - it's no longer new. Doing 'things' is just a way of meeting new people with a similar interest. So if you fancied going swimming - whoever you meet will already have something in common with you.

    Exercise and fresh air is very good for anxiety and other mental health issues. Only you can make things happen for the better.

    Let us know how your Capita experience goes - I'm sure people would be interested in how you thought things went.

    Good luck.

    thanks ive struggled to be in groups, its taken me 3 attempts to get to the group sessions at my local hospital where they do 13 week courses for anxiety, but ive been. i sometimes try to go for a short walk but i cant go far because i start to panic and need to get home.
    i would like to meet new people, i dont have any friends anymore because over the years ive made so many excuses up to why i couldnt go somewhere or do something they dont ask anymore

    Working part time does help , also i dont have to speak to anyone, but i do have a lot of days of sick because i just cant leave the house some days. Im just worried the person will think im ok because i just about manage to get to work albeit part time.

    im in my 30's and still live at home not really thru choice but because living alone i wouldnt even eat or get to my job, its embararrasing to admit i even have to sleep with the light on just feel like i cant face it tomorrow

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    As Lighttouch has said, well done on managing to work. That's a fantastic achievement.

    flowerangelx has previously posted her experience of a home PIP assessment by Capita. I suggest you click the coloured words to read her experience.


    There's loads of information about PIP in the sticky PIP thread, including my experiences of a centre based PIP assessment by ATOS, but I suspect this is too much information at this stage.

    The key thing is to give full and honest answers so that you do your best to let the assessor into your life. Don't cover up any of your problems or feel embarrassed. I hope all goes well tomorrow.

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    Quote Originally Posted by beau View Post
    Will there be someone with you tomorrow? I hope so, if not try to get your mum or your sister to be with you.

    my mum will be at home, ive said if i need her at any point i will come get her

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    Quote Originally Posted by Flymo View Post
    As Lighttouch has said, well done on managing to work. That's a fantastic achievement.

    flowerangelx has previously posted her experience of a home PIP assessment by Capita. I suggest you click the coloured words to read her experience.


    There's loads of information about PIP in the sticky PIP thread, including my experiences of a centre based PIP assessment by ATOS, but I suspect this is too much information at this stage.

    The key thing is to give full and honest answers so that you do your best to let the assessor into your life. Don't cover up any of your problems or feel embarrassed. I hope all goes well tomorrow.
    thanks, ive just read her thread - what was the out come for her? i know they have to do these assesments but its so stressful and seems like they want to catch u out on everything

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    Quote Originally Posted by tom123 View Post
    my mum will be at home, ive said if i need her at any point i will come get her
    Ask her to sit with you all the time, you can have someone with you. May well help your case too as well as you having a witness.

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    flower hasn't posted about a result yet. PIP can move very slowly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tom123 View Post
    thanks, ive just read her thread - what was the out come for her? i know they have to do these assesments but its so stressful and seems like they want to catch u out on everything
    I am still waiting for an outcome of my assessment..I'm getting impatient now and have already put together a case for a mandatory reconsideration and an appeal if they are needed!

    I want to touch on something you have said...about relationships. When I met my partner(random meeting..i was waiting in a familiar place for a friend to show up and was panicking because they were late) he calmed me down, sat with me and then asked for my number. He had the full understanding that we would *not* be able to go to places until I was ready. We started off getting a taxi to his very quiet local pub. Then we walked one way(it's a couple of minutes away) etc. Last year we went on holiday and have been on a few outings. It has improved my situation a great deal. I also didn't stay over at his until 2 months into our relationship - he must have been very patient considering he's 13 years older than myself.

    There ARE understanding people out there. I myself did not leave the house for ANY reason for nearly 3 years due to severe agoraphobia, social anxiety disorder and general anxiety disorder.

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