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    I like your new Aviator AP - very apt!

    Well today I went on a sort of blind date. We arranged to meet in the foyer 30 minutes before the show. I was late as I couldn't find a parking bay! Loads of people, (mainly women), were chatting and loafing around on the pavement outside. I ventured indoors. I was tapped on my shoulder from behind - I did say she'd spot me first. lol.

    We had barely spoken when one of the ushers asked me for my tickets - 'ah sir, you need to go back outside and make your way to the side entrance where I'll let you in the accessible way'.

    So we still hadn't really spoken. She was blonde, shorter than I, she had a nice smile and was well presented. Oh incidentally I forgot - when we first met she said my name in any enquiring manner. I said 'yes' and said her name. She smiled - I said 'lend me your lips' and we kissed before uttering anything more. Yes I'm quite forward - well it breaks the ice. lol

    We were escorted to our seats - not as accessible as I was told. Two steps - yes but each 'step' consisted of 'two steps' and no handrail. The usher offered assistance and I took it. Happily seated we were able to chat for ten minutes before the show started.

    During the interval I thought twice about negotiating the stairs but in the end suggested she went to the bar and brought the drinks back - good plan. The musical was very slick using the very latest digital technology for set changes and moved at a pace - first class.

    After the show I suggested that we go for a drink locally. She asked where I was parked and we surprisingly went back to me car to find a suitable watering hole. Anyway I thought Starbucks was a plan so we parked nearby - wandered in - I gave her some money, my order and visited the accessible loo. She had found suitable seating - we chatted over coffee then she suggested it was getting late and she needed to catch the bus.As it happened she'd come by car but left it outside town to save parking fees. So I gave her a lift as I know Manchester roadways like the back of my hand.

    Was it successful - I'd say yes. Do I want to meet her again - I'd say yes. Does she want to see me again - well she said she had an enjoyable time and we got on really well. I think I'm in the driving seat so it's up to me to make things happen.

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    Sophisticated or what?

    when I was courting me wife, she had to come around watching me paying football, that was her time out, although of course we entered the FA cup and we worked up the leagues, until we played a big name and then we have an after game do. Then when I had to give it up I started coaching and again she would have to go to the after games do, not bad some of those in London. She knows more about the laws of the game then I do these days. now she is watching my grandson playing.

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    Well having met a Polish woman a few months back our relationship has passed a critical point - we took out an apartment in Cyprus for a week where we were thrown together 24/7- a testing time for anyone!

    Despite various disabling barriers regarding the environment we survived in-tact and we're still seeing each other - I must be doing something right! lol

    The question is how did we get on 'intimately'. Well despite having only half a body that works OK - she's able-bodied and very health conscious I still have some surprises up my cuff that made her day. It's a good job she has a sense of humour. lol

    My advice - just be yourself - that's all you can be.

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    Well having met a Polish woman a few months back our relationship has passed a critical point - we took out an apartment in Cyprus for a week where we were thrown together 24/7- a testing time for anyone!

    Despite various disabling barriers regarding the environment we survived in-tact and we're still seeing each other - I must be doing something right! lol

    The question is how did we get on 'intimately'. Well despite having only half a body that works OK - she's able-bodied and very health conscious I still have some surprises up my cuff that made her day. It's a good job she has a sense of humour. lol

    My advice - just be yourself - that's all you can be.
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    Well how time flies. Last month I seemed to be in a steady relationship with my Polish lady friend. I'll have to say I really felt happy in this woman's presence. However the more you get to know each other the more cracks begin to appear due to incompatibilities. A major downside has been 'distance' we live a two hour car journey apart. You can't just drop in for a chat and coffee. So alas that relationship is lost.

    However, just when you least expect it - I'm now taking it slowly with a woman I met at my local 'all abilities' cycling club. She is a volunteer and a real cyclist from the same club that I was a member of many years ago Luckily she only lives two miles away and she can cycle or walk around to my place. It's great.

    Once again, despite me having a very 'in your face' impairment she got to know me better when we cycling together - I was on a trike and she was on a recliner trike. Well despite the age gap - who's counting - we seem quite happy in each others company. I'm not rushing into any intimate relationship having just left one so I'm happy with a friendship. At least we can get to see each other about four times a week which has to be a bonus. Where will it end up you might ask. Well I never ask those kind of questions as you never can tell can you!

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    Always best to work at what you have, & hope for more. I think when it comes to being a couple there are many things against it, & if you worry about the bad you cannot enjoy the good.
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    Well it's a New Year and after recently losing my sister to a long term illness and still recovering from a trip and fall incident I seem to have developed a new friendship with a local lass. We first met back in August when she visited me in a professional capacity at home as an outreach worker. I was looking at options for perhaps doing voluntary work. We drifted away from 'business' and found we had a few interests in common.

    Time passed but she sent me information by email about possible volunteering opportunities. Then we just stayed in touch. I had some tickets to see a family theatre show and decidid to ask her to join me - she accepted and it was fun - short of receiving a parking ticket at the venue. We then met casually for a coffee late one afternoon which also went well - on that occassion I also got a parking ticket!

    She also joined me to see an Opera locally. She's very good company and seems to take my disabilities in her stride.

    On boxing day she invited me around for a festive tea and I also met her 15 year old daughter who was very nice. So there's not been any romance as such but we seem to enjoy each others company. It's interesting as we send emails to each other every other day just talking about how our days have gone and this enables us to disclose a little more information about our likes, fears, what angers us etc. It's a good way to get to know each other.

    Tonight I suggested that she might like to join me to see live theatre in the round. Yes came the reply I'm free Saturday and Sunday. The other great bonus is that she lives locally - 10 minutes away. So despite all the negative things that have happened in the last few months it's always nice to have something positive happening. A chink of light in the winter months. Who knows where it will lead . . .

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    I hope it works out for you two. You need something positive. There is no rush either, to escalate the relationship. I think often people are in such a rush to go to the next stage (I do not just mean sex, I mean a more personal relationship) that this can put pressure on people they may not feel ready for. Sometimes things need to happen on their own, but sometimes a little nudge is OK too.
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    I think there are many forms of relationships, if physical can be part of the relationship - fine, if not just love and happiness in being together is fine as well.
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    i agree with andypandy...man that is some grade a steamy stuff man! My heart goes out to ya pal. sorry to hear about it. all the best

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