Watching a TV show this evening where they were doing up an artisan's house who had had a stroke so he was now in a wheelchair and cared for by his wife 24/7.

They were very sympathetic towards the family and the new house was lovely, BUT in passing they mentioned that the family "used to be very hard-working" and this is the kind of little remark that is unhelpful towards disabled folk and carers both...they are still a hard-working family, they just don't get a salary for it.