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Thread: Sex challenges with a disability (graphic info) SERIOUS DISCUSSION PLEASE!!

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    R0KK17, are you in America? This it primarily a British site, we have knowledge & experience on how things work in the UK. That is not to say some of what we have said may not be of use to you, or that we will ignore you. It means that America has a very different system that differs from State to State, & even city to city.
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    ROKK17, may I ask why you first post here, a public foum, for advice on sensitive and personal sexual matters and then say you have to be discreet? I think my next automatic response to that would be Why? !!!!

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    Are you able to sit on a chair or are you a wheelchair user.
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    Jay, on here one can be reasonably anonymous.
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    Yes, but was more concerned as to why R0KK17 can't speak more openly about his relaionship as a whole because this too could also cause issues surrounding 'performance', not knowing each other well enough to discuss 'positions' between themselves?? Surely this is one instance where a similar/or a disability doesn't mean a certain position is good for everyone?

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    Jay, discreet has nothing to do with what I post on this site or any site for that matter. The reason for discrepancy is because we both currently live with families and have no place to hang certain things like a sex swing so we kind of have to go old school for the moment and rely on our beds. As you know America has been struggling with financial problems and a lot of people are having to go home. Unfortunately, I was one of em'. My girlfriend is taking care of her mother because she has nobody else. We're actually both helping her. And I came home to help my family.

    SeaQueen, I can use a chair as long as it has a high back to rest my head against. The aforementioned couch from before was more like a recliner and it was PHENOMENAL as long as it was in reverse cowgirl position with me sitting up.

    Stephen, I'm now aware that this is a British site and I'm okay with it because no matter where you are in the world, love is love, and passion is passion. But thank you all for such great responses and assistance we're having with this. I will be off of here for probably the weekend because I'll be spending it with her. So tonight possibly we'll be putting some of these ideas into practice. Thanks again! I will return with an update and we can continue this discussion. :-) Have a great weekend everyone!

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    Great topic for discussion but I guess its not appropriate for such site

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    Hope you two have a great weekend R. You are right, & any help given here is genuine. We just want to make sure we do not give advice that is UK-specific.

    Robin, I do not agree at all. I have said it many times, disabled people have a right to a sex life. We are not talking about sexual gratification through posting (In one sense we are) or pornography. We are talking about someone who is disabled & needs advice. The fact that is it of a sexual nature does not negate that at all.
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    Okay I'm back from my weekend with my sweet. Unfortunately, she had a really bad migraine through most of it, but we did manage to please each other orally and she has been getting advice from her girlfriends who also have a sex advice thread for women only. She and I shared some ideas during what little time we could be together and the experience has brought us so much closer over these past two days. Thank you all again for your kind words and tidbits of wisdom...hopefully next go-round, we'll be able to try more of the ideas you all have posted! If anyone has any more ideas, feel free to post on this thread.

    And Robin, stop being ants at a picnic lol. Like Stephen said, this isn't porn...it's adults talking about sex and the differently-abled (what I call it now) person's challenge with it. I mean no disrespect Robin, just poking fun with you. Hope everyone had a great weekend!

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    Well done! I like talking sex, in a less than porn way, it is fun actually. I wonder if you two are putting too much pressure on yourselves too: "Sex, sex, sex. We want sex, we need sex, we most have sex." This can affect how it happens or even if it does. The fact that your two are in what is a difficult relationship anyway, add to that the fact you have no privacy, then add to that your physical limits & abilities.

    One thing in your favour, & she will love you until the end of time (Hopefully), is the fact you want to give her pleasure, not just thinking of your own sexual pleasures. It will happen, I am sure because you both want to make it happen. I am just saying that sometimes when we get anxious & frustrated things tend to become more of an effort than a pleasure.
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